Shortly after writing my post this morning, I found out another friend died a few days ago. Finishing my last paper was so difficult. This is the third friend of mine that’s passed away within the last 4 1/2 months and all were under the age of 25. I don’t understand why the majority of people don’t want to talk about the mental health crisis our country has. Seeing tweets today on twitter about football season and Gray’s Anatomy all just becomes so trivial and meaningless when you are facing/experience death and serious pain.
I’m still going to continue to fight for my life no matter who does or who doesn’t. I will not be a cautionary tale and I will not be a statistic. Someone has to start talking about all the crap people don’t want to talk about because it’s too painful, so it might as well be me.
When faced with something like an eating disorder, you don’t choose to get one, but you choose what to do with it. You can try to fight or you can let it win. Sometimes people try to fight and still don’t win and that is the most tragic thing. If you do try to fight, you’ll find beauty you never saw before, a world you never saw before. It’s amazing.
I’m still fighting and by the way I finished college today.
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I’m so sorry about your friend. I too, recently lost one of my best friends to suicide and my mother died in 2010 from alcoholism which brewed from depression. I completely understand how you feel about reading trivial “news”… As a matter of fact, I quit Facebook and Twitter mostly for that reason. I know how precious life is and I refuse to waste it away reading such pointless stuff, ya know? Every single day I fight for my life, despite how hard it can be at times.
Big hugs to you and congratulations on finishing school!
Thank you for your condolences, Nicole. I am so sorry to hear about both your friend and your mother. I also left Facebook behind a few years ago and now that I’ve just started Twitter, I have mixed feelings about it. I hope you will keep fighting and I’ll be there fighting with you. Thank you for your congratulatory remarks as well, they are greatly appreciated and keep blogging! I LOVE your blog!
Wow, I am so sorry. I am lucky to have not seen the end result of such a terrible disease but I know some individuals are not as lucky. Hang in there and know that reaching out is sometimes the best medicine.
Thank you, Alex. Yesterday I did definitely need to reach out so thankfully I had therapy and spent the evening going out to dinner with a friend. Thanks for your support, I appreciate it a lot!
Job well done on finishing college Alex.
I went through a rough period in which I lost three friends to suicide in about a 2 year period. It was a surreal experience. And even now, over 15 years later, I think about them because I have continued on, aging and living and they never made it out of high school. Unexpected things in life will cause me to remember them and think of them.
Sometimes when I watching people trivialize death (especially suicide) I end up feeling sorry for them that they are so uncomfortable “feeling” the suffering that other person endured and that the surviving family will be left continuing on with.
Take care.
Thank you, Samantha. I’m sorry to hear about your friends as well. It is unfortunate that suicide, which I believe brings a very different kind of pain than a “natural” death, is not talked about as much as it needs to be. It is difficult to talk about for sure, but when people feel they have no way out, that’s a tragedy and I know that feeling a little too well. I’m glad that you have continued on in life and I’m sorry about the loss of your friends, as it certainly leaves an imprint that I don’t think ever goes away.
Thank you for reading my blog and commenting. Best,
Alex
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